Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies
In light of mother’s day that passed last weekend I thought it would only be right to dedicate this post to all the mothers out there and most importantly the best mummy in the world, my mummy. It’s so funny how years later I can final appreciate the lessons and principles my mum installed in me from before I could talk. When I reminisce on my childhood there is one recurring theme..
SHE WAS RIGHT!
I had these group of friends who I thought were the coolest, but I wasn’t allowed to play out, or go to parties and I went to church on Saturday’s – which was the day of most of the planned outings – so I always felt left out. It simply was NOT fair that I couldn’t be like the other kids, everyone else was allowed to go, I felt like the world was perfectly constructed against me, so I couldn’t have fun. And often I would – respectfully – try and voice these opinions, do you know what she would say:
“Don’t tell me about what other people’s child, do I look like their mother?”
Or the worst…
“If your friends jump off a cliff will you follow them?”
“You’re not a sheep, you are a leader, you don’t need to follow behind people”.
At the time I just wanted to fit in and I couldn’t understand the lessons I was learning or the discipline she was teaching me. My mum has always been very grounded in her faith and if someone was trying to move her – or me for that matter – away from it then it was them that was crazy not her. But as I’ve matured I have a better understanding of what it means to stand your own ground and go against the grain and do what I believe in regardless of what my friends were doing or what they thought. Instead of facing regrets on the basis of “fitting in”, I’ve learnt to stand my ground and it has put me in a better position always!
My mum is an excellent judge of character and another thing she would do is look my friends up and have them sussed out on sight. Often, I didn’t want to believe the things she would feedback to me about my friends, but she was always RIGHT. One time I was going out with a guy friend – who I was kind of seeing – and my mum pulls up right in front of us as we about to head out. I didn’t have my glasses on so at first I couldn’t understand why someone had pulled up right in front of me blocking my path. I look in the window and it’s her, I swear she must have spent 2 seconds with the guy, but when I came home she told me all about him. Of course, I didn’t want to listen, we were really good friends and I thought he was super nice. Tell me why a few months later we no longer talking because he was moving to me whilst hooking up with his ex – now converted to – current girlfriend!
SHE WAS RIGHT
It may have taken me decades to come around to the idea that “a mother knows best” but trust me I’ve finally caught up. To all the mothers out there, keep doing what you’re doing, you are amazing and one day your child will finally stop fighting you and realise that you have the best of intentions and you’re right – because you are even when you aren’t ;-). And to my beautiful and intelligent mama, I love you, I wouldn’t want anyone else in the world to hold the position you do and please don’t kill me for writing a post about you xx
Mama was my greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love.
Stay blessed y’all,